The Big Day is nearing. My legally married wife and I are finishing each and every tasks for our Church wedding on 17th January 2015. (It is a requirement in our Church to legally marry before the wedding)
I can't remember when we started the planning for the wedding but it is a blessed plan. From the day we have attended the Catholic Marriage Preparation Course we were always building trust and closing the gaps between us. These acts have bond us much stronger that we realised that the blessings of God are always there in our relationship.
When I informed my intention to marry to my parish priest, he gave me a guidance booklet to prepare the wedding booklet. From there, as my wife and I were going through the bible readings for the wedding service, we read the text from 1 Cor 13: 1-8. The last phrase touched both of us. At that moment we understood God's role in our relationship because He was the one that always has kept both of us together against every obstacles and pains. With much of honour, acknowledgement, praises and gratitude, we have decided to put His act on us as the wedding theme and that is "Love Never Fails" (ref: 1Cor 13: 8)
From the time we have selected the theme, we are building our life to be Christ centered. We always know that we are very much afar from achieving it but nevertheless we have decided not to forget that God shall be always the center of our marriage and family life.
During the preparation, there were many obstructions and discouragements that have led us to some dry moments but because we never stopped communicating even in an argument and therefore we were able to discover each other more and more. Whenever we are in a church, we will be sitting in front of the blessed sacrament and pray. We infact little by little have stopped asking and started giving thanks in our prayers to the Lord. We always end our prayers with one Lord's prayer, three Hail Mary and complete them with 'Glory Be'.
Trust in God more than yourselves. Nothing is greater than Him. The world will put it's conditions to give you that temporary comfort, but it will fail eventually. God never fails. His love never fails.
May the Lord bless you and give you peace. Amen.
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Friday, January 9, 2015
Friday, October 31, 2014
Chapter Two - What is Happening is Happening in Good Way
Continuing from the Chapter One, our journey from the first meet developed to second meeting, third, fourth and planning some outings and now we are getting married.
Through these two years journey and exploring what we want as an individual and as a couple, situations never been all time comfortable. I am so proud to say that we fought, we told to the other that we wanted to break-up, we stopped talking with each other for somedays, we scolded each other and doubting each other's love. From all those we learnt to respect each other and made some decisions as a couple. And the best thing is we experienced wonderful feelings of missing each other and loving each other after every arguments and fight.
Love relationship is never so different from how is our relationship with God. In both, decision to love is the key to continuation.
In our relationship, the little things we did to the other are the greatest gifts we gave and received. I can't forget my first kiss, the warmth of her body when I hug her, her childlike and annoying attitude, the way she finds comfort under my arms when she felt hurt, the way she appreciated and boasted to her friends when I bought her some gifts, the way she laughed at my jokes although it is not very funny, the happiness we share when we went out together, the way we forgetten the world around us and only thought about us, the proud feelings that we felt when making decisions as a couple, when we complimented each other, when we encouraged each other and many more.
We are now in the midst of planning our wedding and we very much know that there are more to discover about each other and us. The confidence that we have on this marriage was not imposed or inspired by another person or couple or situation but we grew this confidence by fostering us to narrow our gaps. It is easy to break-up and to find a new partner but it is not easy to go back to our partner that has challenged us and say, "Hi". Unless by acceptance (coping), love cannot succeed.
If you believe in love and wanted to be loved, always accept that what has happened, is happening and will happen has been, is and will be happening in good way.
Through these two years journey and exploring what we want as an individual and as a couple, situations never been all time comfortable. I am so proud to say that we fought, we told to the other that we wanted to break-up, we stopped talking with each other for somedays, we scolded each other and doubting each other's love. From all those we learnt to respect each other and made some decisions as a couple. And the best thing is we experienced wonderful feelings of missing each other and loving each other after every arguments and fight.
Love relationship is never so different from how is our relationship with God. In both, decision to love is the key to continuation.
In our relationship, the little things we did to the other are the greatest gifts we gave and received. I can't forget my first kiss, the warmth of her body when I hug her, her childlike and annoying attitude, the way she finds comfort under my arms when she felt hurt, the way she appreciated and boasted to her friends when I bought her some gifts, the way she laughed at my jokes although it is not very funny, the happiness we share when we went out together, the way we forgetten the world around us and only thought about us, the proud feelings that we felt when making decisions as a couple, when we complimented each other, when we encouraged each other and many more.
We are now in the midst of planning our wedding and we very much know that there are more to discover about each other and us. The confidence that we have on this marriage was not imposed or inspired by another person or couple or situation but we grew this confidence by fostering us to narrow our gaps. It is easy to break-up and to find a new partner but it is not easy to go back to our partner that has challenged us and say, "Hi". Unless by acceptance (coping), love cannot succeed.
If you believe in love and wanted to be loved, always accept that what has happened, is happening and will happen has been, is and will be happening in good way.
Monday, March 11, 2013
Chapter One - Love at First Sight
It was on evening May 27, 2012 at Cathedral of St John, Kuala Lumpur that I met her for the first time in-person. Before this we met in an online dating website and then facebook and she invited me to meet on the mentioned day via facebook message.
So we went to the evening Sunday Eucharistc Celebration at the cathedral. I am not sure where she is sitting and so i just told my self not to look for her yet and concentrate on the celebration.
After the mass is over, I waited a while at the entrance and I started to feel akward, so I decided to walk around the cathedral for a while to think if I am making the right move. I was nervous and have not prepared any introduction words expect for the common word, "Hi" and she phone-called me. The first sentence i heard from her with her timid and nervous voice, "Errmm... Where are you?" And I responded her that I am at the cathedral and to wait for me at the entrance. I can't remember how I said them but I know that my sentences are not properly arranged and I had to repeat certain words for her to understand what I am saying.
At the entrance I saw her holding a roll of poster. She is a simple looking person. No make-up. Dark skin but not too dark. Wearing an eye-glasses like mine and put on a a grey colour sweater and carrying a bag. She was not the girl of my dream but I felt that I really really wanted to know her more. I felt that I am attracted to her because she presented herself so naturally without any makeup and yet she still wanted to blind date.
So I went near her and as I thought my first word is "Hi" and she replied the same too. Then she asked me, "You came here alone?" I was very nervous that time that I did not hear what she asked me that I had to reply, "Huh? What you were saying?". Then for sometime there was some akward moment with silent and at that time I asked her if we can go to a 'mamak shop' for some cups of tea and she agreed.
So, we walked down from the cathedral which is actually built on a hill to a President Corner Bistro. We sat facing each other and took an order for cups of tea with milk and the other without milk. Deep in my heart, I am saying to myself I must break the akwardness and start with a warm conversation and guess what, it did happen. I could suddenly start a casual conversation with her, saying where I am staying, my family, about my involvement in church's activities, my hobbies and bla bla bla.... I am pretty sure that we sat there for almost and hour and most of the talking done by me. Nervous at first but I got comfortable with her as the conversation prolong.
During the conversation, she gave the poster to me. It is the picture of Mary, the Mother of Universe. I told her that in my house we have a lot of holy pictures and posters and one of the waiter saw the picture and asked us, "Are you church goers?" I immediatedly asked him, "Are you a Catholic?". And he said, "Yes". So I asked her if I can give the waiter the poster and she agreed and I gave the poster to the waiter. After a while we decided to leave. We paid the bill and we walked back uphill as it started to drizzle.
We walked to a junction and said goodbye. I asked her if I could drop her at her house but she politely refused my offer. She walked to the nearest LRT station and I crossed the road to go to my car parked at cathedral but once I crossed the road, I stole a moment to look at her from far. I already in love with her but I was not sure if a relationship could happen since we never arranged a second date. But..... This story has a continuation....
So we went to the evening Sunday Eucharistc Celebration at the cathedral. I am not sure where she is sitting and so i just told my self not to look for her yet and concentrate on the celebration.
After the mass is over, I waited a while at the entrance and I started to feel akward, so I decided to walk around the cathedral for a while to think if I am making the right move. I was nervous and have not prepared any introduction words expect for the common word, "Hi" and she phone-called me. The first sentence i heard from her with her timid and nervous voice, "Errmm... Where are you?" And I responded her that I am at the cathedral and to wait for me at the entrance. I can't remember how I said them but I know that my sentences are not properly arranged and I had to repeat certain words for her to understand what I am saying.
At the entrance I saw her holding a roll of poster. She is a simple looking person. No make-up. Dark skin but not too dark. Wearing an eye-glasses like mine and put on a a grey colour sweater and carrying a bag. She was not the girl of my dream but I felt that I really really wanted to know her more. I felt that I am attracted to her because she presented herself so naturally without any makeup and yet she still wanted to blind date.
So I went near her and as I thought my first word is "Hi" and she replied the same too. Then she asked me, "You came here alone?" I was very nervous that time that I did not hear what she asked me that I had to reply, "Huh? What you were saying?". Then for sometime there was some akward moment with silent and at that time I asked her if we can go to a 'mamak shop' for some cups of tea and she agreed.
So, we walked down from the cathedral which is actually built on a hill to a President Corner Bistro. We sat facing each other and took an order for cups of tea with milk and the other without milk. Deep in my heart, I am saying to myself I must break the akwardness and start with a warm conversation and guess what, it did happen. I could suddenly start a casual conversation with her, saying where I am staying, my family, about my involvement in church's activities, my hobbies and bla bla bla.... I am pretty sure that we sat there for almost and hour and most of the talking done by me. Nervous at first but I got comfortable with her as the conversation prolong.
During the conversation, she gave the poster to me. It is the picture of Mary, the Mother of Universe. I told her that in my house we have a lot of holy pictures and posters and one of the waiter saw the picture and asked us, "Are you church goers?" I immediatedly asked him, "Are you a Catholic?". And he said, "Yes". So I asked her if I can give the waiter the poster and she agreed and I gave the poster to the waiter. After a while we decided to leave. We paid the bill and we walked back uphill as it started to drizzle.
We walked to a junction and said goodbye. I asked her if I could drop her at her house but she politely refused my offer. She walked to the nearest LRT station and I crossed the road to go to my car parked at cathedral but once I crossed the road, I stole a moment to look at her from far. I already in love with her but I was not sure if a relationship could happen since we never arranged a second date. But..... This story has a continuation....
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