Life is not so fair.... Once again life is revealing it's truth.
Comfort is many people's dream. Many of us wanted comfort living. Me too not so different. But again my employee's words always have come to my mind and reminding me why I shouldn't look for comfort for now.
His words are, "Never say that you are comfortable with the current job. You shouldn't be."
And, "Ordinary people, extra-ordinary performance."
He has many more, but these are more suitable for my sharings.
I feel comfortable if I don't work. Better if not waking up early every morning, but discipline mould a person to be a survivor.
I feel comfortable if I just do my job, without being curious and learning new things, but learning leads me to broader pool of knowledge.
I feel comfortable if I never ask questions and make myself look like an idiot, but by asking questions I teach myself more than the person who don't.
I feel comfortable if I reject to take lead on some jobs, but by being a project runner, I sharpen my project handling skill and at the same time I am becoming a trustworthy person to my employees.
I feel comfortable if I never make myself busy serving in church's choir, youth ministry both parish and diocese level, being active in Bahasa Malaysia Apostolate (KUBM), and also allocate some time to visit my friends in Nilai, but I have some knowledge and talents that are worthful if I share them.
I feel comfortable if I never wanted to start a relationship, just being her friend, and stay single since being in relationship with her could be very challenging in many angles, but I love her and challenges occur at any relationship.
When I look at the opposite site of comfort, burdens are waiting there. If I stay at comfort zone, I would be forever an ordinary person. But beyond burdens, comfort is waiting. That comfort is more precious because it is earned. I wanted to earn my comfort and therefore I could happily say that life is unfair and yet it is beautiful.
Declare beauty again
Monday, September 21, 2009
Monday, September 7, 2009
Good Hearts Fixing Life Partner
In a few years, I would be 30yr...Usually, at my age, many Indian guys would already got married or planning to get married soon with ready life partners. It is not so different in my life too, but the thing is, people around me are more excited to see me getting married soon than me.
Within my family, my aunties would like to look for me a nice Indian girl. When they told my parents infront of me of their intention, my mom just smiled and said, "When the time comes, he will get married".
I could read my mom's mind. She wished I could be a priest rather than getting married but I could see that there are some changes in her heart recently. Unlike my mom, my father's side would like to see me getting married to an Indian, and if possible, a girl from India.
Since I am serving for Bahasa Malaysia Eucharistic Celebration in church, there are people with different opinions. My church has a good number of Ibans. I serve with them and I do activities with them too. And there were sometimes where they asked me that I would like to marry an Ibanese. Moreover, sometimes I hangout at my "kakak angkat" 's residence. She is an Iban, but her husband is a Bidayuh. Amy, her sister-in-law, who is my age stays there too. Amy and I are good friends. We are like a tag-team in church's activities. I could rely on her on administration stuffs and she relies on me on getting things work. Together, we make a great working team. But people misunderstood our relationship and even wanted me to propose her. Haiz... "Babi sama babi mah. Sure bisa kerja bersama." We were born in 1983, the year of pig.
Nevertheless, there are a small community of Kadazans in my church who are great singers. My sweetheart, Phoebe Ng, is a Kadazan too, but she is more Chinese than Kadazan. Mom Chinese/Kadazan-Dusun. Father is a Chinese. There were at some occasion that they would like to see me getting married to a Sabahan, but definitely not Phoebe Ng. She is 21yr different.
Lately, I was thinking about these. Why these things happening? And I could come up with only one answer. It is because of the God's blessing. He has blessed me with a gift to blend with any community regardless race, age, and religion. I thank my Lord for this gift and I pray that He will continue to bless me with this gift.
Last but not least, I would like to marry only my love. I wish this is possible.
Within my family, my aunties would like to look for me a nice Indian girl. When they told my parents infront of me of their intention, my mom just smiled and said, "When the time comes, he will get married".
I could read my mom's mind. She wished I could be a priest rather than getting married but I could see that there are some changes in her heart recently. Unlike my mom, my father's side would like to see me getting married to an Indian, and if possible, a girl from India.
Since I am serving for Bahasa Malaysia Eucharistic Celebration in church, there are people with different opinions. My church has a good number of Ibans. I serve with them and I do activities with them too. And there were sometimes where they asked me that I would like to marry an Ibanese. Moreover, sometimes I hangout at my "kakak angkat" 's residence. She is an Iban, but her husband is a Bidayuh. Amy, her sister-in-law, who is my age stays there too. Amy and I are good friends. We are like a tag-team in church's activities. I could rely on her on administration stuffs and she relies on me on getting things work. Together, we make a great working team. But people misunderstood our relationship and even wanted me to propose her. Haiz... "Babi sama babi mah. Sure bisa kerja bersama." We were born in 1983, the year of pig.
Nevertheless, there are a small community of Kadazans in my church who are great singers. My sweetheart, Phoebe Ng, is a Kadazan too, but she is more Chinese than Kadazan. Mom Chinese/Kadazan-Dusun. Father is a Chinese. There were at some occasion that they would like to see me getting married to a Sabahan, but definitely not Phoebe Ng. She is 21yr different.
Lately, I was thinking about these. Why these things happening? And I could come up with only one answer. It is because of the God's blessing. He has blessed me with a gift to blend with any community regardless race, age, and religion. I thank my Lord for this gift and I pray that He will continue to bless me with this gift.
Last but not least, I would like to marry only my love. I wish this is possible.
Tuesday, September 1, 2009
How I see marriage
Recently, somebody argued with me that it is okay to leave a man that could not provide wealth, does not have a good education background and the capability to earn a lot of money. She was arguing with me unrealizing that I was actually looking at relationship on another perpective and not opposing her thought.
When a girl chooses her man based on his wealth, education, and capability to earn, she is making a choice. This is not from love, but I wouldn't deny that there are successful marriages born from this choice. Marrying the man whom a girl or a woman has loved, doesn't guarantee a successful marriage too.
Marriage is a risk. If you are looking at a bussiness perspective, it is like an investment in shares. If in construction, it is like building a mega structure. Anytime, a small mistake could bring a big disaster.
We take risk marrying a stranger, though he or she is not totally stranger, but he/she is at a certain extend. We take risk making baby/ies. Children change our budget flow. We take risk in buying property for family. We take risk in buying insurance, choosing school and education for children, and so on.
Many of us could agree that marriage is a risk. But when we could say marriage is love and if we realize and could see that love is love, and no other things or whatever could replace 'love', and because love stands by itself without any other word that matches it. What is the better way to describe a marriage?
Marriage is from love. We choose a better man or woman as our partner. But is it out of love? If we love the person we choose, then there is no wrong in choosing. But if couldn't love the person we choose, then make sacrifices to sustain the marriage.
When a girl chooses her man based on his wealth, education, and capability to earn, she is making a choice. This is not from love, but I wouldn't deny that there are successful marriages born from this choice. Marrying the man whom a girl or a woman has loved, doesn't guarantee a successful marriage too.
Marriage is a risk. If you are looking at a bussiness perspective, it is like an investment in shares. If in construction, it is like building a mega structure. Anytime, a small mistake could bring a big disaster.
We take risk marrying a stranger, though he or she is not totally stranger, but he/she is at a certain extend. We take risk making baby/ies. Children change our budget flow. We take risk in buying property for family. We take risk in buying insurance, choosing school and education for children, and so on.
Many of us could agree that marriage is a risk. But when we could say marriage is love and if we realize and could see that love is love, and no other things or whatever could replace 'love', and because love stands by itself without any other word that matches it. What is the better way to describe a marriage?
Marriage is from love. We choose a better man or woman as our partner. But is it out of love? If we love the person we choose, then there is no wrong in choosing. But if couldn't love the person we choose, then make sacrifices to sustain the marriage.
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